James married widow Sarah Eldridge, daughter of Stephen Mink and his wife Elizabeth, on 08 Oct 1866 in Lee Co., VA. They were borth 30, Although the marriage record gives James's father as REasor, from other I records, I believe the correct name is Reason. ("Virginia, Marriages, 1785-1940," index, FamilySearch (https://familysearch.org/pal:/MM9.1.1/X5B9-71R : accessed 19 January 2015), James Wilder and Sarah Eldridge, 08 Oct 1866; citing Lee County, Virgiania, reference p17 #138; FHL microfilm 32,441.)
Becareful with this, as there are several Creed Wilders born about the same time: According to the California Death Index, son Creed's mother's maiden name was Cope. (Creed was born 02 Feb 1875 and died in Los Angeles 01 Oct 1945.) So, if this is correct, the maiden name of the woman James was married to in 1874, when Creed was conceived, was Cope. There was Creed Wilder born about the same time in Tennessee, and a Creed born about the right time who was living in Iowa in the 1900s, so they are a bit difficult to keep separated. The CA record does say that this Creed was born in Virginia. ("California, Death Index, 1940-1997," index, FamilySearch (https://familysearch.org/pal:/MM9.1.1/VPV1-K8V : accessed 19 January 2015), Creed Wilder, 01 Oct 1945; Department of Public Health Services, Sacramento.)