Hi,
I'd like very much to help you, and I know others here feel the same. We'll certainly do what we are able.
I am not fully understanding your question and could use some clarification.
The profile of Esme Malan that you provided a link to would not appear to have any relation to the surname Essemes. You could contact the Profile Manager of that profile either by posting on their page or sending them a private message and ask them if they know more about the name.
You gave a list of names, but I don't understand who the known relations are vs. who are the the ones you are unsure of. The more clear the question the better the chances of recieving useful help.
Who exactly is your ancestor (plus all information known about them) and who exactly would you like to know about (plus all known information)?
Once we have the needed information we'll see what we can do.
Thank you for posting!