Dear Harrietta,
Maybe in KY? Here is a possible match -
"Find A Grave Index," database, FamilySearch(https://familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:QVKQ-N3JY : accessed 28 October 2015), H A Fenley, 1864; Burial, Louisville, Jefferson, Kentucky, United States of America, Cave Hill Cemetery; citing record ID 31746751, Find a Grave, http://www.findagrave.com.
Could he have married again? This could be him with a Melinda -
"United States Census, 1850," database with images, FamilySearch(https://familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:MHJN-XNF : accessed 28 October 2015), Havilla W Fenley, Franklin, Hendricks, Indiana, United States; citing family 213, NARA microfilm publication M432 (Washington, D.C.: National Archives and Records Administration, n.d.).
Hope this helps!
-NGP