I would reword number 1. You're looking at records of the FAMILY, they're just listed under the guys' names because we live in a patrilineal androcentric society.
When I write biographies I often write the husband and wife simultaneously. I write each up to marriage on their respective profiles then I write the family story - relocations, children, and so on - on the WOMAN'S profile. I include any "color commentary" type facts that affect the entire family. Then I copy and paste the after marriage bits on to the man's profile. Sprinkle in a few items specific to each person, deal with death info and whatever the survivor got up to up til their death.
I have found small town newspapers to be an invaluable source for adding substance to the lives of women in my tree, at least from the late 1800s through the 1900s. There's record of their social lives in many small town papers, including club memberships.
Church records are another good place to find records of women in their own name (married or maiden).