I do Not Know My Biological Dads Name

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lol I do not have a clue I have uploaded GED info also no coonection on 23andme or Ancestry that I can tell...
WikiTree profile: xx Uncertain
in Genealogy Help by Marian Scott G2G Crew (430 points)
I would also suggest uploading to FamilyTreeDNA & MyHeritage, as friends of mine had their closest matches at each of them.

5 Answers

+6 votes
Register at GEDmatch.com. Get on Tier 1 for one month.  Use Tier 1 to combine your 23andMe and AncestryDNA kits into a super kit.  Turn your 23andMe and AncestryDNA kit to Research mode.  Enter your Super Kit ID on your DNA tests page in WikiTree.  

If your mother (or her siblings) is living then pay for their DNA tests.  Those who don't match your mother or her siblings may be your father's relatives.

Sincerely, Peter
by Peter Roberts G2G6 Pilot (556k points)
Yes I'm aware if they do not match biomom it's the other side the problem what will the indiviuals name be will it be a dad or a brother or a uncle who knows lol.....
+3 votes
Marian, is Payne-14258 your mother?  We cannot see the profile because apparently she is a living person.

The first thing I suggest you do is add more of your maternal ancestors to WikiTree.  Then you may find more relatives with whom to compare DNA.  That will not help you find your father, but it may help you rule out maternal matches.

It appears you have done an Ancestry test.  I don't mean to be insulting, but it is unclear how much you know about how to use your results.  I can recommend some resources if you think they might be any help.
by Julie Kelts G2G6 Pilot (376k points)
LOL, I know how to use Ancestry very much when you have indiviuals that go under cover and do not show tree etc., well you have nothing to go by with out the right NAME...
Marian, one thing you can do is check their shared matches.  That should at least help you learn which side of your family they are on.  

If there is a strong match on your father's side, I'd encourage you to try and make contact.  Maybe you already have.  Here's one set of tips for trying to identify those unknown matches, from Blaine Bettinger:

https://thegeneticgenealogist.com/2017/03/11/are-you-doing-everything-to-identify-your-matches/

Yes I have done all the above actions, if you have NO NAME & the TREE is all PRIVATE and/or nolonger avail your out of luck believe me I have been on this since Decenber 2019... But thank you for the reply...wink

Good luck!  Even if you don't have any promising matches now, new ones come along all the time.  (And you never know--maybe one of those with the private trees will contact you.)
I had those same obstacles in the search for my bio father.  And, the majority of the matches who responded to my messages were adoptees, so searching, too. So many unknowns. On top of that, my two highest non-maternal matches were already dead. In addition to that, my mother is in denial and stopped speaking to me over this.

In spite of(or maybe to spite!) those obstacles, after about 8 months I had found my bio grandparents. They had three sons to choose from. I was finally able to get one to respond and agree to test. He came back as my uncle. He asked brother #2 to test. After 16 months, I finally confirmed my bio father.

You don’t need their name in order to start the process. The DNA matches will ultimately expose it.

I am no expert by any stretch, I was desperate and learned as much as I could about building out the available match trees and match charting methods. Also, search Google for the screen names your matches are using. Sometimes people use the same screen name across different sites. Facebook sleuthing can be helpful, too.

I can try to help you, if you want help and haven’t accepted any of the other offers. Message me and I will send you my email address.

Best wishes to you in your search. I know how overwhelming it can be. I have been there.

Have a blessed day.

Your sis in Christ,

Suzanne
+3 votes

Marian, you asked a similar question a few weeks ago.

Have you had a go at the Leeds Method since then? Ignore the names for now, focus on the shared matches first and make groups from them.

Feel free to send me a message if you'd like some help.

by Katie Fuller G2G6 Mach 2 (20.6k points)
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Hi Marian,  Most adoptees do not have either their mother or father' s name so that is not unusual.  As an Adoption Angel here on WikiTree one of the things I do is run the BETA version of One to Many Report out of GEDmatch.  Then I run the People Who Match 1 or 2 kits report by taking each of the top 10 matches .   I then cross reference the reports looking for patterns.  What this does is create family lines and you can see who is related to who which helps to determine maternal vs paternal lines.

By viewing the ged or Wiki links you see trees.  This is much more useful than using the Ancestry DNA tools. Mainly because GedMatch reports can get you to the actual chromosome level when you are ready to look at the overlaps.  

If you send me a private message I can send you something I wrote that helps with this.  Make sure you include your direct email on the private message to me so I can send you an attachment.  

You might also consider filling out the application to request the help of one of our Adoption Angels.  

https://www.wikitree.com/contact/adoption/

by Laura Bozzay G2G6 Pilot (665k points)
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Marian, I would suggest that you join a Facebook group and ask for assistance.  There are adoption angels on many sites that help adoptees.  One of my favorites is:  CeCe Moore's group.

by Darlene Athey-Hill G2G6 Pilot (433k points)

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