I have hit a brick wall

Question

how can paternal grandmother be found

Answer 1

Have you tried familysearch.org it is a free site?

Answer 2

There are lots of ways to find ancestors.  The most logical is to look at birth or death records.  I found this Dale Leon Shackleford in Family Search, with a dad Jay Marshall Shackleford and spouse with the correct name.  But none of the dates quite match what you say. https://www.familysearch.org/tree/person/details/G7SN-832  Start with what you know, look for census records,marriage records, birth and death records, military records, and document it on their profiles as you go.

Comments

Looks like his mother is Arrinda Smith.  Again, though, none of the dates match what you give, so double check and add sources for each fact.

Answer 3

Is this your family?

Name: Mildred L Hastings
Event Type: Census
Event Date: 1930
Event Place: Gans, Sequoyah, Oklahoma, United States
Gender: Female
Age: 5
Marital Status: Single
Race: White
Race (Original): White
Birth Year (Estimated): 1925
Birthplace: Oklahoma
Father's Birthplace: Tennessee
Mother's Birthplace: Arkansas
Relationship to Head of Household: Daughter
Relationship to Head of Household (Original): Daughter
Sheet Letter: A
Sheet Number: 3

 

Household	Role	Sex	Age	Birthplace
Chas C Hastings	Head	M	36	Tennessee
Anna Hastings	Wife	F	34	Arkansas
Marion G Hastings	Son	M	8	Oklahoma
Mildred L Hastings	Daughter	F	5	Oklahoma

District: ED 6
Sheet Number and Letter: 3A
Household ID: 48
Line Number: 41
Affiliate Name: The U.S. National Archives and Records Administration (NARA)
Affiliate Publication Number: T626
Affiliate Film Number: 1931
GS Film Number: 2341665
Digital Folder Number: 004952251
Image Number: 00611
Indexing Project (Batch) Number: N03980-1
Record Number: 29572
 

Citing this Record
"United States Census, 1930," database with images, FamilySearch (https://familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:XC4V-YK9 : accessed 14 August 2020), Mildred L Hastings in household of Chas C Hastings, Gans, Sequoyah, Oklahoma, United States; citing enumeration district (ED) ED 6, sheet 3A, line 41, family 48, NARA microfilm publication T626 (Washington D.C.: National Archives and Records Administration, 2002), roll 1931; FHL microfilm 2,341,665.

Answer 4

Hi Marcia, I think your dates are close to 20 years off.  I believe J. Crook has given you the correct info on the son Dale.  Marshall's birth is closer to 1900 born in Arkansas and living in Oklahoma in 1940.  If you can find the 1940 US census you will see approx dates and birth places.  If you can't find the census I will provide it.