I am not implying that you are blaming one more than the other. I know all about the feud. Just think we should not label since we are not doctors.
But, will give you a little of my own history up close to McCoys and Hatfields. I got along wonderfully with the Hatfields in my family. My mother was a McCoy and she had 8 children and my father worked in the coal mines. My mother had something wrong with her mentally and emotionally that I have never been able to understand, neglected everyone but herself, as one doctor told me they did not think she was ever capable of loving and caring for anyone. Sad thing.
Eight children alone except for a father trying to do everything. I was the one who was removed from the home to live with my dad's sister because I was ill. I stayed there and he would come to visit me all the time.
My mother's uncle. a McCoy, started a fight with my father's cousin so my father stepped in to stop the fight which was a fatal mistake. The cousin was shot in the arm and my father was murdered.
I grew up never knowing about my McCoy family but very curious about them and especially my mother. I tried to get to know her but she was lost somewhere in her mind. So, yes I would welcome to know there was a reason for the things my mother did and could not do and what her uncle did by ripping my father from me. I never saw or heard of anything else from my McCoys like that again. But they also never tried to help or visit my McCoy mother or siblings.
Now, maybe you can understand my passion for this project. However, I have asked how I could help the lady who requested help to documents so many of the McCoys. I never heard a response.
I do not share this story with very many people. Now, here I have put it on a site for all to see. However, I am looking for answers on so many levels. I would welcome the diseased part over evil, but I guess I need proof.
I also had one brother who was very violent and hurt people. I was the lucky child who after my father's death I was adopted by his sister and was not subjected to any more of the disfunction.
I am not sure if all this is related to a coincidence, heredity, or evil. But, it is an area that is VERY important to me and I do want to work on this project but I need to be given instructions on what to do and how to do it.
Guess I shared too much but it is a fact and maybe it will help who can say. I just need answers that I may never get. Sorry for taking up so much of your time.