G2G: 52 Ancestors Week 13: Light a Candle

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From Amy Johnson Crow: Week 13

The theme for Week 13 is "Light a Candle." Candles are often lit in remembrance, in prayer, or when the power goes out for 5 days because of an ice storm. Be creative with this prompt!

Between this and "Gone Too Soon", we've been getting a lot of feels this year. Hmmmm....

in The Tree House by Chris Ferraiolo G2G6 Pilot (894k points)


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I will leave the "strong emotion"  answers to others.  On special occasions, as pictured here (Christmas 1956), my mother would light candles for the center of our dining room table.  Dad set up his tripod for a family photo.  I grew up loving candles.  Beautiful centerpieces. Lovely fragrances.  I once had a bath by candlelight.  

It was only when I began doing genealogy that I understood our ancestors ate or did other things by candlelight just to see.  Since then candles as ornamental things don't impress me the way they used to.  Now you may not feel the same way about candles but I'll bet I'm not the only one who changed perception of something due to researching ancestors.

by Pat Miller G2G6 Pilot (271k points)

What a wonderful Christmas photo Pat you do look like your beautiful mother

Thank you for sharing this photo

Thank you, Susan.  You are always so generous with your comments.  smiley


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Today, I'm lighting a candle for my "kleine Uromi" (German for little great grandma) Frieda Graul. There are actually a couple of candles (albeit unlit) in one of the few pictures of the two of us:

I was only three years old when she passed away, and within three months of her passing, my little world caved in: two more close caretakers dying and my parents separating. She had buried not only her husband but both her children, so when I was born, she told my mom to look after me lest anything bad befell me too. So now, 50+ years later, I'm lighting a candle to let her know: I'm alright; everything has turned out for good. I love you, kleine Uromi!

by Oliver Stegen G2G6 Pilot (249k points)

Very touching, Oliver.

A candle for your kleine Uromi -


Thanks, Pat!

Melanie - your candle means the world. Thanks bunches!!!

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January 1974 produced an ice storm that crippled our area. I remember awakening to the crack of the large elm tree in our backyard. It fell on the northwest corner of our house with a large limb coming through my bedroom window right between my sister and me. We shared a room with twin beds. The limb didn’t touch us.

Living in the country we depended on our electric pump for the well, so no water. We did have a gas cook stove and furnace. My dad would bring in a large galvanized tube of ice, sit it on the floor furnace and as this melted, we could use it to flush the commode.

Trees fell across our three miles of gravel and blacktop road. Daddy placed chains on the pick-up tires, loaded the bed with wood, and started out with mother. She was the director of nursing at our rural hospital, so needed to be at work ASAP. He cut his way out to the main Highway. Mother also had him run around town and pick up other hospital workers who couldn't make it to work. By the time he returned home, more trees had fallen, so he cut his way back home. The telephone was also out, so he couldn’t call and explain why it was taking so long to get home. He arrived home to three terrified little girls sitting in the dark. His work was just beginning. He had the forethought to take the big igloos with him and had stopped by a local artesian well for water, so we had clean drinking water, water for flushing, and the ability to cook and stay warm.

As I said, Daddy’s work was just beginning. He had to get to the bottom to check on the cows, make sure they had hay, and check on any new calves. How did he do this with trees falling all around, still snowing and sleeting? Honestly, I wish I  knew everything he did. He also had to tarp the back of the house.  I do know a few days later as the ice melted, our creek was out with water almost to the barn. He took the canoe and paddled all over our bottom land and pastures checking on livestock and fences.

Where does the candle come in? On a dead-end,  rural gravel road in January, it was probably completely dark by 4:00 p.m. we used many candles and coal-oil lanterns for the seven days we were without electricity. This was the longest we were without power during my childhood. I know we were blessed to have a resourceful dad to make things as easy as he could for our family, while he worked from early in the morning until fairly late every night. Mother wanted to be at work by 6:30 a.m. and usually wasn’t ready to start for home until 4:30 p.m. it was several days before the timber stopped falling and daddy felt it was safe for her to drive her car into town.  Again, our phone lines were down, so no communication if she had difficulty traveling the about 13 or 14 miles one way  

To this day, I keep candles and matches readily available. I learned what long days and nights are without light. The silence is so erie except for the sound of the timber cracking and falling.

I could write a book about this longest week but will stop here by saying, I am thankful for the lights I use daily and for all the electrical cooperative employees who work long hours to repair and restore our electricity when we do have storms.

Warren Tull

Mary Frances James Tull

by M. Meredith G2G6 Pilot (176k points)
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Your account of your ice storm is excellent, Margaret.  On Montreal Island we went through the same thing in January 1998.  Crashing tree limbs that hit the ground with an enormous thud, then a ping-ping-ping sound of ice from the felled branch scattering across the frozen blocks of snow.  Bigger chunks of ice striking the ground like bullets.  I was looking after my elderly mother and we huddled in her bedroom with many blankets and candles. Fallen branches all over the roads. Days and days without power. It was an icy hell.  And I remember the Hydro trucks from Connecticut coming down our street.  We hurried outside, slipping and sliding to yell our praise and blow kisses.  The help from many places when these disasters happen is so beautiful.

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I will light a candle for my mother. She is currently still alive but is 87, has dementia, and has triple negative breast cancer that has already spread throughout her body. A week ago she was still doing well (when my brother and SIL first told us of the terminal nature of her cancer diagnosis). Now she is in hospital for pain management and will be headed to palliative care very soon. We have had our problems over the years but I still hope that she has a peaceful death when the time comes.
by Liza Gervais G2G6 Pilot (562k points)

Liza

I’m so very sorry to read about your mother. Having dementia is bad enough. It took my mother away long before she was physically taken.

I’ll pray for peace and comfort for both her and for you and your brother.

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My mother-in-law always lit a pair of new candles, after grace was said, for family meals. Everything was very formal. It made me feel as if I was being assessed over the coarse of the meal. It could have had religious connotations I suppose. I can only imagine how many candles she lit in prayer over her daughter's choice of a spousal unit. I've always viewed them as a fire hazard and a poor light source. Maybe a citronella to keep the skeeters at bay and a little ambiance.
by K Smith G2G6 Pilot (466k points)

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This is a photo of my maternal grandmother Nellie Marvin on her 92nd birthday. On her cake, she has nine white candles near her and two more white candles near her name. My daughter is on the right, and I am in the back.

She is wearing her favorite Eva Gabor wig. She was a small woman, but she was a force to be reckoned with, and she played the piano up until the week before she died.

by Alexis Nelson G2G6 Pilot (944k points)

Alexis you look gorgeous wow and Betty photo of your maternal grandmother and your best daughter

What a delightful photo I love it thank you for sharing

Great photo (as usual, you are the lady with great photos), Alexis.  How wonderful that your grandmother played the piano until a week before she died!  That's happiness.  It makes me think of my father returning from an operation at the hospital.  He said nothing, went straight to the piano and played a few ragtime chords with one hand, then went to his room.

Susan, thank you for your sweet comment. She was very healthy and never took any medication except for an aspirin. She could walk, but she liked a wheelchair to prevent having a fall.

Pat, your father was such an amazing man. I love hearing about him. Nellie also played ragtime and church hymns.

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I am a cousin both to Maryland's first Episcopal bishop Thomas John Claggett and to Maryland's first Catholic bishop, John Carroll. In their long years of service, I'm sure they lit many a candle, so I wrote about them for this week's prompt. 

https://annesgenealogyadventures.blogspot.com/2023/02/52-ancestors-2023-week-13-light-candle.html

by Anne Agee G2G6 Mach 4 (42.2k points)

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https://www.wikitree.com/g2g/1558523/52-weeks-of-us-black-heritage-notables-week-13-light-a-candle

This week USBH is featuring 

Captain Robert Bernard Tresville Jr. a Tuskegee Airman who was deemed missing in action after his plane crashed into the ocean in 1944.

Medgar Wiley Evers an American war veteran, civil rights activist, and the NAACP's first field secretary in Mississippi. He was assassinated in 1963.

by Emma MacBeath G2G Astronaut (1.3m points)

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This photo is my niece at her 8th birthday party despite all her problems she often seemed happy! 

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I wrote about her here, https://www.wikitree.com/g2g/1544063/52-ancestors-week-9-gone-too-soon?show=1544566#a1544566

by M Ross G2G6 Pilot (987k points)

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Darren Kellett gave me the idea to go into the Titanic to see if I could connect there someone, because the departure of the ship or the meeting with the ice are often remembered on pages like Wikipedia.

I went into the "Children on the Titanic"-category and found there Neville Coutts. First I tried to connect him via his father. The mother was born in Ireland, that's too hard for me to solve. But when that failed, I looked if Neville had married. Yeah he did and I could connect him via an ancestor of his wife.

by Jelena Eckstädt G2G Astronaut (1.7m points)

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