Let's Celebrate Loving Day!

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Did you know that June 12th is Loving Day in the USA? It's the day the historic case of Loving v Virginia made interracial marriage legal across the country for the first time! Yes, believe it or not, if your loved one was from a different "race", you couldn't marry them in most of the states prior to 1967. That was all changed thanks to Richard (who was white) and Mildred (who was Black) who fought for the right for their marriage to be recognized in their home state after they were arrested.

Since marriage has been difficult to achieve for many people across time and around the world, let's celebrate couples today. Tell us about your favorite couple in your tree or your favorite notable couple. Post pictures here of your favorite couple if you want to, so we can celebrate them with you. 

While you're looking for couples in your tree, this is a great time to give their profiles a little love and polish. You could add more sources, expand their biography, or add family photos. Check that all the location fields are spelled out (Virginia instead of VA) and have the country added. Add a sticker or two if you like stickers as much as I do. 

Here are a few of our favorite famous couples: 

Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee

William Craft and Ellen Smith (read about their daring escape from slavery!)

Martin Luther King Jr and Coretta Scott


You can read more about anti-miscegenation laws around the world here

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I'd like to celebrate Faith (Mussing) Bandler, fighter for Indigenous rights and documentor of Australian oppression of South Sea Islanders, and her husband Hans Bandler.

At this link there is a photograph of Hans and others toasting Faith after the overwhelming success of the 1967 referendum for Aboriginal rights. Faith was New South Wales Vote YES campaign director.

by Jim Richardson G2G Astronaut (1.2m points)
What an amazing lady! Thank you for sharing, Jim
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My great great great great aunt Mathilde Morier, a white French Canadian, married a black man, Martin Stevens in Boston, Massachusetts in 1875 (anti-miscegenation laws were repealed in Massachusetts in 1843). Their son Walter Stevens discussed her, as well as his own race-related experiences in his autobiography:

My mother was a white woman but I didn't discover this until I had grown almost to manhood. The strange part of it was that nothing was ever said about it to me by anyone. There was no furtive whispering, gossip, or innuendo, for she was simply taken for granted. In those days there was not as much prejudice between colored and white as there is today [1946] in Boston. Life was entirely different in many ways.

Mother, although being of an entirely different color than the rest of our family, fitted into the home picture fairly well. She was born in Canada and was a French-Canadian. She went about her business calmly, presided over her simple domain with a certain amount of assurance, but had absolutely no imagination. She was so unlike father, for he was strong, dominating, personable and vibrant. Hers was a placid, docile nature.

The thing that endeared her to all of us children, my two sisters and myself, was the fact that she saved us from the strict discipline and beatings which we would have received from my father, who was a man quick to anger, though once his rage was over, considerate and gentle with his children. Another of the things that I remember most about her was her fastidious nature. She was very particular indeed about my personal appearance, and instilled in me the importance and need for cleanliness. If I say very little about mother, it is because there is nothing much to say.

by Brian Lamothe G2G6 Mach 5 (50.1k points)
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You are so lucky to have his personal remembrances of his parents! thank you for sharing. I added the African American sticker to his profile to honor his heritage and to help descendants find his profile more easily.
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One of the most interesting couples I've come across is Thomas Bedoonah and Lydia Crafts, who married 4 Oct 1703 in Boston, Massachusetts, and lived in Roxbury. Tom was a free Black man and Lydia was White.  They married just before Massachusetts outlawed interracial marriage in 1705.  I believe at the time, race was determined by the mother, as it seems their children were considered white.  Some of their grandchildren, I believe, fought in the Revolutionary War.  I really wonder what life was like for them.

Some day, I'll get around to doing more work on their profiles/descendants. I'm not related to them, but learned about the while working on my extended Wheelock tree.  (Lydia was the daughter of John Crafts through his second wife, Mary Hudson, his first being Rebecca Wheelock)

by M Cole G2G6 Pilot (111k points)
Wow! It's so great to have records this far back. Yes, the children's status was determined by the mother. If she was free, they were free. Laws that determined someone's race constantly changed.
I did a little digging and found a chapter on the Beduna family in this dissertation: "Endearing Ties" : Black Family Life in Early New England.  I haven't had a chance to read all of it, but its really fascinating...describing Thomas and Lydia (very pregnant), walking through the snow from Roxbury to Boston, to reach Samuel Sewall, a justice of the peace who they believed would be open to marrying an interracial couple.

https://dash.harvard.edu/bitstream/handle/1/33493445/WHITING-DISSERTATION-2016.pdf?sequence=4&isAllowed=y

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