Poor you Shirley, it is frustrating for sure - I really struggled initially with Wikitree's collaborative, sharing approach and kept my profiles tightly clutched under my own privacy controls, looking at any who asked to be on the trusted list with misgivings and mistrust, not that a single soul here on Wikitree deserved that sort of judgement.
It wasn't until another (more mistrusting than I obviously) completely denied my access to my own GG Grandfather and also denied the family link I was attempting to complete despite fullproof evidence of Birth, Death, newspaper clippings etc, this person was also so terribly rude in the end I was almost hoping we weren't related. I eventually won her over with the sheer volume of evidence, with this I also learnt and rethought on my own behaviours here on Wikitree...
Some people arriving here have been for years and years doing their research in complete solitude (like me) and the friendly Wikitree bunch can be overwhelming with their eagerness to contribute, build and connect, jumping into what I saw as MY Profiles and putting in weird coded stuff that I didn't understand, my years of work was being questioned and critiqued from others.. What the?? LOL, I do it to others now, always to help.. but the recipient may not see it that way until they eventually become 'WikiTreeIfied'.. I try to remember always how I felt when first arriving here, it keeps me patient.
When you first arrive here at Wikitree, you really don't have an understanding what is done here, I pretty much ok'd everything just to get my gedcom loaded (errk did I say that outloud?).. it is all a learning curve. but perhaps refresh of checking off the agreement again at the 3 month 6 month mark of a newbie's time here... or even a flash up of parts of the Honor code over time as a gentle reminder.
Vent away, we all need that sometimes... but please keep doing what you are doing Shirley, leading the way with your generosity and kindness, these people will hopefully 'come around' and become excited to join in and become connected