I have pretty much proven that the Thomas May that I found is one of my Mays and I believe that he is one of the men in the picture of the four May Brothers. He was most certainly alive then but now I am wondering if he might have lived too far to be heard from much since most of the family seemed to live in Northeast Ohio/Northwestern or western Pennsylvania.
Besides that fact, I question if the other siblings knew much about his daily life as he lived over 1000 miles from his closest known sibling. The thing that makes me wonder about him being in the picture is his death occurred just 5 years before my great-great grandfather died and they make no mention of the siblings who went before. Now, John and Edward and possibly Bernard (more on that in a minute) had died at least 20 years before my gg grandfather so I don't expect his family to mention but 5 years doesn't seem like that long a time. In fact, my uncle passed away 8 years ago tomorrow and it still doesn't seem like that long a time ago.
So to conclude, even if he is in the picture, should I expect them to know much about each other's lives back then?