Geez Louise. I can't help think of the surviving son, as an adoptee, not being able to find his family. One bad apple does NOT spoil the whole tree, and it's difficult to get behind those bad apples. I like the advise you got about locking them up and having someone else there too. Too many times one generation of dopes can cut us off from a really cool history. Or perhaps, explain how we got where we are. Plus, your documenting it, takes away those hissing sounds in the corners of family gatherings. I like to think that shedding light sends roaches away.