Shared Photo: Caroline Augusta Mildeberger, with sons Herbert James Keating and John Edwin Keeting

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This is my great-grandmother, Caroline Augusta Mildeberger Keating.  After an indescretion with a young man by the name of James Timothy Keating, she and her family picked up and left Spring Valley NY for New Haven Connecticut, where 7 months later she gave birth to my great grand-uncle John Edwin (seen center).  She bore another son, my great-grandfather Herbert James Keating.  James Timothy abandoned the family at a certain point, leaving Carrie a "Grass Widow" as they used to say.  She lived with her sister Irene until her death in 1895 from breast cancer at the young age of 34. Irene also succumbed to cancer in 1899.  

  Apparently James T Keating was such an unpleasant fellow that my great grand-uncle changed his name from Keating to Keeting "so that his father couldn't find him when he got married."  (James T, btw, went on to marry either 2 or 3 more times, without bothering with the petty details of a divorce! )  

I feel a great kinship with Carrie, and think that she had a terribly sad short life.  Her parents were left to raise not only her sons, but those left by Irene also.(Irene had married Elmer Ellsworth Hayes from Monroe, Connecticut, and her children are related to President Rutherford Hayes.)

I wanted to share this family photo of Carrie Mildeberger with the community. Location: New Haven, Connecticut. Date: .
Click here for the image details page or here for the full-sized version (1115 x 864).

WikiTree profile: Carrie Mildeberger
in The Tree House by Alycia Keating G2G6 (9.5k points)
Great commentary, this case, though both are charming, "a thousand words deserve a picture."

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Thank you for sharing the story about Carrie and her boys.  Though it is a sad story, the photo demonstrates to me that she loved her boys and wanted to remember the three of them together as a family.  Adding the information brings the photo to life.  And using the term "grass widow" helped me to expand my genealogical vocabulary today.
by Star Kline G2G6 Pilot (735k points)
selected by Alycia Keating
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Very sad story but one that is typical of American life.

Thanks for sharing.
by Betty Fox G2G6 Pilot (192k points)
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Sad story, but one that adds to the family history. Thanks for sharing.
by John Noel G2G6 Pilot (758k points)

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