Ken, thanks, and. . .
I was from the very start of the ftdna auDNA test years ago in doubt about the reasoning (not offered by them) of the directive not to give your kit number to anyone else. Who could possibly mind was my thought. Now after reviewing quickly all the words connected with this problem on the links I rec'd today, I think it is one of those non-essential arguments between people who care more about rules and regs instead of outcomes. No one really wants to go into the details of the dna (lacking some sort of criminal suit, perhaps; or an inheritance problem, I suppose), so in the vast majority of cases, no one's looking because it's irrelevant to our Wtree purposes--normal people simply searching for authentic dna ideas and connex.
My cousin is simply a fairly rigid person. So on second thought, I tried to make her DNA test private. I get it that she might care, and also that she doesn't care enough to correspond with me about most of it, except minimally. It amounts to a potential that is not likely to come to a head. If she cared, I'd simply delete her place on the tree. She could set her tree up for herself and let her curiosity and interest guide her actions and prejudices from there. W-tree is a collaborative, first-do-no-harm kind of place on the web. Our intent is clear: We are all one family. In that interest, I included her in her wing of my family tree. Period.