Philena Kilbourn, born about 1815 either in Litchfield, Connecticut or in Pennsylvania where her family moved either before or after she married Ben Wilbur whose name is variously spelled Wilbur, Wilber and even Wilbor. He is said to have been from New York and his father's name is said, also, to have been Benjamin Wilbur (and maybe Benjamin L. Wilbur who married Elizabeth Love. I'd love to find Ben Wilbur and will so appreciate your help!!!