Hello Barbara Bennet (Nee De Meur) and Ellen Smith,
I am currently researching my family history and have come across this in my family tree. Theodore Arthur De Meur and Elizabeth Smith (Dark) De Meur are my 3rd Great-Grandparents. My line of heritage falls through their daughter, Jospephine M (1864).
My mother and I were quite shocked to discover this story!
I am more than happy for you to contact me through my profile by PM if you would like to discuss this more. I am still piecing togther Theodore Arthur DeMeur's parents and linage.
Rachel Groot Obbink (Nee Humphry).