Note: I added parts of this answer to the other question in this regard.
Welcome .. I agree if possible it would be nice for one to have the option to participate with the point system or not.
For What it is Worth. Addressing the behavior, I have been a member of Wikitree for about an year and I have been busy on G2G. I have found the forum to be useful, educating, informative and nourishing. I have never experienced, read or witnessed a single bully-manipulative, hierarchical-controlling , down the nose-snobbish and or self-super-ego serving G2G event and I'm thankful for that.
Your view point(s) are keen, well taken, intelligent and I believe well intentioned.
Fortunately, I think you will experience a nourishing and helpful culture at WikiTree. I know you will benefit and add benefit to the expertise in this community and enjoy the passionate commitments members have to quality and integrity driven successes. .. I have ..
C'est Bon Magnifique
P.S. I have a mathematics and physics academic background which adds a different perspective to the "scale" question. Each number "point" is unique along a continuum that forms a community of numerical values that are equally unified, equally distinct and equally interconnected. The "alchemy" of their values are synergistic functions.
For me it is not the point system nor experience elements that can lead to uncivilized hierarchical rank-ish condescending behavior you have keenly imagined. I agree with you that those who believe their point status is a means to control, manipulative or pontificate to others of lesser rank is highly destructive, boorish and out of place with WikiTree values and should be addressed.
Unfortunately, it is the kind of unkind behavior we detest and find everywhere.
The good news for me is that the members of WikiTree have exhibited a standard deviation value that represents the highest set of nourishing behavior.
Thank you for reminding me to remain vigilant and aware.