Hey David, 14th cousin Kevin here, twice removed of coarse. I "shared" your frustration before I watched some tutorials, got some feedback on g2g and looked at the overall picture of Wikitree. Not understanding the merge function, I tried to merge my profile to my GG grandfather thinking that's how I connected to the tree. I was "schooled" on how to. I see your admission that "you probably don't merge correctly". In order to "connect", files must be merged. When I connected, I learned I had multiple GG uncles who had families I never knew of. That was on my Smith aka (Smyth) side. Maternal side is Dalton aka (Daltan) potentially 10's of thousands of cousins- I've spoken to one, a descendant of my GG grandfather's brother. I have seen profiles for other cousins (I don't know) who are also contributing to their tree, my tree the tree. W/o the help of other Tree'ers I would know little more than I did before I started. Some are truly altruistic; others are just adding info (pieces) to the puzzle as it continues to grow. I doubt if anyone is trying to get you to quit Wiki Tree. However, what we do effects untold others IF what we do is incorrect. One thing passed on by my ancestors is, don't take anything too serious, life itself is only temporary!