I see you have signed the Honor Code (https://www.wikitree.com/wiki/Special:Honor_Code
). The number one rule of the Honor Code is that we collaborate. In addition, the Honor Code asks of us that we care about accuracy, that we are courteous and that we cite sources.
Here is a great guide on Communication Before Editing: https://www.wikitree.com/wiki/Communication_Before_Editing
Here is a great G2G post on this: https://www.wikitree.com/g2g/237484/proper-etiquette-adding-information-profile-profile-manager
I assume that your intentions were to remove what you felt was a duplicate profile, however, there was and still is not, proof that the two Ruths that were merged are the same person.
Here is a guide on Merging: https://www.wikitree.com/wiki/Merging
When merging it is very important to make sure that the merge is in the correct direction and the merge tool warns if the merge is in the wrong direction. The reason the direction matters has to do with database integrity. When merges are in the wrong direction, it causes a problem with broken links and circular references.
Here is a guide on Redirects: https://www.wikitree.com/wiki/Redirects
Here is a good explanation of problems with redirects in the guide on Project Protecting and Merging: https://www.wikitree.com/wiki/Project_protecting_and_merging#Background:_The_multiple_redirects_problem
We are all encouraged to make the global family tree as accurate and as readable as possible and the only way to do that is by working together, which requires communication and collaboration. The Honor Code is there to help remind us that we should never discount another genealogists work, we should never delete their work, and that we should work together at all times.
My frustration with the recent changes on this profile are that:
1. A merge was performed between two profiles without proof that they were duplicates. There was clearly not enough information to support the merge.
2. A merge was performed in the wrong direction.
3. A merge was performed without any discussion or communication, especially considering #1
4. The editing of the profile after the merge left the profile in an invalid state, in particular, the <references/> tag was deleted from the Sources section
5. After I cleaned up the profile, readded the married last name provided in the book referenced that is available for anyone to read, readded the <references/> tag, fixed the new citiation to be a proper reference and included notes on the need for more research, the profile was edited again to remove my work with a comment in the profile: "I would suggest to future researchers of the subject Ruth Rodman that you check out her child John Rodman Whitney and his son John Rodman Whitney before you choose which genealogy to follow. Question should be do you have a Whiting carrying the Rodman name?" This comment is not useful, it makes assumptions without providing proof, and was worded in such as way as to squash my attempt to keep both lines of research open.
All of these changes are not in keeping with the Honor Code!
Just to be clear, I never stated in my request to get both you and the other editor some mentoring help, that your comment was in bad taste or mean spirited. I only stated that the recent changes were very frustrating and I was 'having a hard time assuming best intentions.