joseph came to louisiana 11-19-1888 age 9 with his family. he married Lolita Federico they had a son, my father gordon joseph federico 12-4-1917. family history says he was an only child. Lolita is believed to have been adopted and lived in iowa. her adopted mother and father died before she was 16 and she was living with her oldest sister and she and her husband died by her 22nd birthday. how she got to new orleans we dont know. there are several joseph federicos in the family so it is hard to seperate them out. sometime after 1925 they moved to new york city where lolita died jan 1948 and joseph died in 1957 in Middleburgh, NY when i was 7. maybe they never married? i cant find her death certificate either.
Lolita appears to have married a John Thompson in 1903, Kansas before she married Joseph Federico. So she may have been a Thompson when she married your grandfather.
You might try searching for her or their marriage record with the last name Thompson.
1903 marriage record:
"Kansas, Marriages, 1811-1911," database, FamilySearch (https://familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:FWLR-VRD : 28 January 2016), John Thompson and Loletia Maude Richmond, Seneca, Nemaha, Kansas, United States; citing Marriage, 18 Feb 1903, Seneca, Nemaha, Kansas, United States, district clerk, county clerk and register offices from various counties. Kansas State Historical Society. ; FHL microfilm 1,955,334.
Your information was correct and we had to do more digging
we have since found this info to be incorrect. Lolitas name was Richardson not richmond and her parents were James Richardson and Elizabeth Fernandez we still dont have a wedding certificate and are not sure were she was born.