Dear Anita,
I was recently contacted on 123&me and Ancestry.com by DNA matches of mine in your situation looking for birth parents. Everyone wants to know their Heritage and their genetic health. I was able to help them, pinpoint the branch of the family. One actually found both paternal and maternal sides of family and they were open to meet them! GEDMatch and WIKI are both great tools for finding relatives. People back in the day kept things so private, not realizing DNA some day would come around and reveal the family secrets. I was quite surprised by all of the adoptees in my family as we were quite well off, so I don't understand their choices other than the social implications back then. I do know DNA between my siblings is quite different as I have a larger percentage Scandanavian and American Indian. My great aunt gave up a baby for adoption back before she met her future husband, he would've married her and kept the baby, it broke her heart to give that child up, it haunted her until the day she passed away. She never told her children or grandchildren. I only know because my mother told me. She wanted to give the baby a chance to have a better life. Your mother loved you dearly and I'm quite sure she and your father that raised you were trying to protect you the best way they knew how, you will find your birth family I'm quite sure. Perhaps she was engaged and he lost his life in the war? Many people are DNA testing these days. Times have changed, only your mother knows the reason, lets concentrate on the positive and find your family! Hugs, Suzan M.
