The only marriage I can find that fits your needs is in Lymington, Hampshire in 1858. Can that be right?
If so, she was born in Hampshire (Boldre according to 1861) In 1841 she is in Millbrook - parents - George and Mary Ann. She is also in Shirley, Millbrook in 1851.
John Reaf's first wife was Eliza. It looks as though Mary's first child appears to have been Elizabeth, followed by Eliza and James. Any before that are presumably Eliza'd.
Incidentally your Mary's profile has her as the father and husband. I think her gender needs to be altered.