Most people have written about good mothers, but I am going to write about a bad mother, though fascinating in other ways, and a good grandmother.
A friend of mine said she was the "first liberated woman she ever met".
My grandmother, Meena ( Lillian Florence (Meacham) Gunn (1886 - 1973) ) ( https://www.wikitree.com/wiki/Meacham-526 )
Her current WikiTree profile is just the barest skeleton.
She was born in Kent, but grew up in South Africa, where her father was a brewery manager at Olsson's in Capetown, and a serious amateur artist. Her mother was also an artist.
In her teens she was sent back to London, to study at the Royal Academy of Music, and she made her debut as a concert pianist. She was a member of the Fabian Society (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fabian_Society), and the Theosophical Society ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theosophical_Society ) and was friends with George Bernard Shaw ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Bernard_Shaw), H.G Wells ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/H._G._Wells ), Sidney ad Beatrice Webb ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sidney_Webb,_1st_Baron_Passfield and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beatrice_Webb), Eric Gill ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eric_Gill ), Clifford ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clifford_Bax ) and Arnold Bax ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arnold_Bax ), and Florence Farr ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Florence_Farr ).
In 1907 she married the musician Herbert Hughes ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Herbert_Hughes_(composer) ) and in 1908 they had a son, Patrick Hughes ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spike_Hughes ). Meena and Herbert separated by 1911, when Pat was 3.
Caring for a young child did not appeal to Meena. She would leave him alone in the flat for hours on end while she went off "doing her own thing" (by that time pottery,sculpture. Pat was sent to boarding school at age 5. Pat's autobiography is full of description of times when he went "home" for the school holidays, only to find that Meena was in Florence, or somewhere else, and he had to camp on the doorstep of one of her friends.
None the less, Pat's autobiography, makes it clear that he loved her dearly, in spite of neglect that in modern times, would be considered child abuse.
In the early 1920s, Meena and Herbert finally divorced, and Meena married my grandfather "Jack" (the Egyptologist Battiscombe Gunn) ( https://www.wikitree.com/wiki/Gunn-1707 ) ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battiscombe_Gunn ).
By this time she trained with Sigmund Freud to be a psychanalyst,
In 1928 my father Iain (J.B. Gunn) ( https://www.wikitree.com/wiki/Gunn-900 ) ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/J._B._Gunn ). Like his half brother, Pat, Iain was sent off to boarding school at age 5, and we have letters showing that he was desperately lonely.
In 1939, with WWI imminent, Iain was evacuated to the US where he attended Solebury School. In 1940 Meena and Jack divorced, and Meen married a young neurologist, Alex Grey-Clarke. Alex was born in 1911, 25 years her junior, and younger than her first son Pat. But nobody said a word to Iain about it. When he returned to England (before the was was over, but when it was clear England was not going to be invaded) he was shocked to discover his mother had remarried. I don't think he ever really got over it. And, as a psychoanalyst, she should have known that keeping it a secret was the worst thing she could do. None the less, my father wouldn't hear anything bad about her mothering.
She was a great grandmother. When she was paying attention to you, she made you feel you were the most important person in her world. But when something else caught her attention, she would run roughshod over anyone who got in her way. And she definitely had a sense of entitlement.
"You are getting to be like Meena" is not generally a complement. She once said that she would rather be an example TO her grandchildren than an example FOR her grandchildren. In reality she was both.