This is an incredibly tough situation, Sandy. And I really must commend all those who have responded for their kindness and thoughtfulness.
In a slight parallel, on my profile, I list two daughters, both private. However, my eldest is actually my step-daughter. Her father pretty much abandoned her and her mother when she was very young. Last contact - when she was five and hadn’t seen him for a couple years before that. No contact since.
I have researched her biological dad’s line, just because I figured she eventually want to know this. It turns out that it was true, she loved it, finding out that she has a fascinating tree.
She still considers me her father, though I am not biologically hers, but she was glad to find the treasure of her ancestry. And while your situation must be so difficult to deal with, but... someone will appreciate all the hard work you put into that tree. I’d say, keep the tree, and begin again. Sometime, somewhere along the line, there will be someone who will connect with your work and honor you for it.
Just my thoughts. My heart goes out to you.