Thanks, I am more prepared to handle this now.

Question

Thanks for the kind answer and links and patience with my concern.

Comments

I'm a little late, but I'm glad you've discovered how helpful and supportive this community is! I don't even feel stupid asking what turn out to be the most obvious questions (well, not too stupid anyway, lol!) :)

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 Yes, I am so glad Im here! TY

Answer 1

Hi Tamara.  I understand the frustration.  What you're describing doesn't sound very much like "collaboration" as I understand the word.  And there have been other discussions in G2G suggesting that editors ought to back off for a while when it's clear that a profile is actively being worked on.  So I agree with Tannis that you should try contacting the other member.  You could point out this page in the Help file for starters:

https://www.wikitree.com/wiki/Help:Communication_Before_Editing

And then, if you don't get satisfaction, you may need to become familiar with this page:

https://www.wikitree.com/wiki/Help:Problems_with_Members

Good luck.

Comments

Thanks for the encouragement. I dont want to alienate this potential cousin. Just having you listen helped me!

So, Im going to have to address it -Next time--. At least Ive gotten it off my chest and will be able to deal with it calmly and thoughtfully. 

Thanks again

Tammy

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Thank you for pointing out the links to me--I think they'll help me alot.

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I just read both of these lnks and they are wonderful!  

I didnt realize they even existed, I should have known there would be a topic on this.  Wikitree truly is a great place. 

https://www.wikitree.com/wiki/Help:Communication_Before_Editing

https://www.wikitree.com/wiki/Help:Problems_with_Members

Answer 2

Have you contacted that person and discussed it privately yet?

Comments

Thanks for the suggestion. I just dont know how? I know- duh. But I anm going to do that when I notice it again., but Ill be calm.