I don't know what happened, but, when I clicked on the link I was brought to the search page. Perhaps it has to do with your search history and/or cookies. Anyway, I searched for Myrna and found her page, then clicked on the View Source link, copied it. I returned to her page and put the link on her profile. I then added the <span> tags and fixed the biography. It had 3 find a grave links in a row (that actually led to the search page). So, look at the Edit tab to see what I did, or the Changes tab.
Normally, I would just tell you what I think you should do, but your post sounded a little frustrated. Let me know if you need more explanation. It is fine to use both the <span></span> tags and the <ref=grave>Find A Grave, blah blah blah</ref> tags as well, or a mix of the two.