Thank you all for the answers and I will be looking at those suggested sites. Some I already had... but I do appreciate it.
We worked for over 6 hrs on just this one family of his/my family while we were sitting on our front porch in the rain, yesterday afternoon and eve. We eliminated one name after the other and read thru at least a dozen websites probably more. At one point I had over 23 tabs open on my laptop with Geni and 11 with Wikitree and Wikipedia and the Lindsay clan plus more. We wrote all names down and at one point we even think a whole generation may have been missed when profiles were entered on some sites, but I have to rearrange some pages (hard copies) to be sure.
The crux of it is that Alan Limesay was not a Lindsay (of England). He was Limesay of France. The connection isn't made until later via his granddaughter. Anyway... here's what we've come up with SO FAR. I'm still working on sources.
Rudolf de Toeni (c965-1095) was married to Adela de Barcelona (this is the one we aren't quite sure of because the sites confuse this Rudolf with the next generation)... issue - Ralph de Toeni (c995-1044)
Ralph de Toeni married Adelaide of Normandy - issue Randolph/Ralph de Limesay (c 1034/40-1093)
Randolph/Ralph de Limesay (companion to William the Conqueror) was married to Christina Avice de Northumberland note: NOT Hawise - issue Baron Alan de Limesay (c 1058 to 1162) in FRANCE, not England.
Baron Alan de Limesay was (per one source) was 104 at the time of death. He married Hawise - issue Gerald de Limesay (c 1095-1185). By now Alan de Limesay was in England.
Gerald was married to Amicia de Bindun - issue Aleonora and Basilia who inherited everything.. plus another daughter and a son who died young w/o issue.
Alenora married David de Lindsay of Crawford (married 1174) which is when the Limesay and Lindsay's came together and the name changes.
The Lindsay information is readily available while the other Limesay information, is buried deeper.
I am hoping this information can get added to the profiles but probably not because I'm not putting down the sources ... perhaps I'll share the sources when I get them all put together and sorted out, but right now I don't have the pre-1500 badge to contribute to any of the pages.
But I do hope this can clear up some of the muck. It semi-satisfies our questions right now. We will be working on this more today.
I appreciate all your help. :)