There you go Josh. Dorothy is a senior person here at Wikitree and you have the email needed to contact the admins and ask.
Just be aware that we are all volunteers and many of us have "Day jobs" as well, so it MAY be a few days for them to get back to you.
One last thing - I would suggest that you paste the link to this question into your email so that the admins can read this thread and understand everything before making a decision.
Its not just the trusted list issue, there is also the privacy issue as well.
Your grandmothers profile should have been OPENED because most profiles that have DOD's are now usually open.