I connect because I am connected to my Dad, who is connected to his Dad, and he to his Dad .. and so on. Mostly my connections to the anchor and the profiles of the week go through my dad, granddad, great-grand, then marriages, siblings, etc. Rarely I get a connection through my Mum.
Example — my connection (22 degrees) to Henry VIII Tudor goes up my paternal line to 3-greats grandfather, then his sister, her daughter, the daughter's husband, etc.
To Mary Pickford .. 23 degrees by way of that same 3-greats grandsire, but then to a different sister, and so on.
To the Member of the Week -- Cheryl Skordahl -- 29 degrees by way of the same 3-greats grandsire, then yet another sister, her husband, his sister .. and so on.
You can't see your connections if you are not connected.