Sorry I just realized you also asked for more info on Abner: he’s
Barrows-730 on WikiTree. Parents listed as John Barrows and Jemima Johnson (citations for marriage on Taunton Marriages page 41, and listed in John’s page {Barrows-747}, which is now all messed up).
Born 1743 Colerain, Mass 8/1/1770. Moved with parents to New York, married Lucy Call 1793, fathered 8 children, died 1849 NY.
Per SAR Patriot website research: I’m thinking that the John Barrows listed married to Sarah (P-109834) and buried in Lakeville (which is the Thompson Hill Cemetery) next to his parents is NOT my ancestor.
I’m thinking it’s the John Barrows listed as 109835, no wife (which could work as Jemima), born 1743, is my ancestor! Does that strike a cord with anyone???
Now to figure out how BEST to disentangle mess / create new John / detach from incorrect people. Oh boy....