Dad was born Dec. 1941, his mother lived with her dad and her husband was in prison. I need to find out is conjugal visits were allowed in theAuburn State prison in 1941. Dad is the 3rd boy and only the first one used the Ames name his whole life. Dad thought his name was Chilson until retirement forms required his birth certificate which revealed his name as Ames! I am trying to find out if his father was Alby Roscoe Ames or Howard Willis Chilson is. Alda may have had an affair with Howard but since they weren't married she may have just given dad her last name (married name).