You have a few options, the Scotland Project is growing and changing at the moment and they would be delighted to have new members if you are interested in Scottish Profiles, I can help you join them if you wish.
Separately to that I would message the PM of the profile the merge has been proposed with and the person who proposed the merge.
He has surmised that because the Jane you adopted has her father mentioned in the source which is on your profile. The other Jane has her husband listed so they must be the same person.
The merge will take 30 days to complete unless you or the other PM accept or reject it. Or you could set it to an unmerged match and add some research notes in the Biography while you are working on it.