Teresa,
Have you had any breakthroughs in identifying the parents of Thomas. I have been on the same quest for years. I have previously sent you some messages. Anyway, I have focused most of my time on the Thomas McAfee as shown in the 1850 census with parents James, Nancy and brother William in Tishomingo Co., MS. All I had to start on was a comment from my aunt that Thomas was brought to AL from TN as a boy by uncles Dan and Jack and raised by the McKinneys. None of my McAfee family members have any additional information, none. If indeed he was adopted or raised by the Gray family it will probably take some foot work visiting the counties in question, McNairy, Lincoln, and Davidson, TN. I did a search and found only two documented McAfees in McNairy Co. between 1800-1840, a Jacob and Moses. There is a record of a Luke McAfee death in 1840 in Lawrence Co., AL. The 1840 census indicates 5 mails and 4 females (one male 0-5, one male 10-15, one male 15-20, one male 20-30 and one 40-50). I found records of names for one male and two females who became part of the new marriage, assuming Luke was one of 5, that means there are 3 unidentified males. I am taking the mtdna test but it probably wont help in this case. I would like to locate a direct McAfee male relative and have them take the test. Anyway, just wondering if you have any new info. and wanted to let you know I am still looking for Thomas' parents as well.
Dave