i just returned to this issue, and reviewed the link you shared above (contextual name displays). I continue to find this wholly confusing and frustrating. And wish we could come to a better compromise that displays female names consistently, and includes maiden and married names of women, but does so in a way that people who follow standard genealogy practices will recognize (and accept) -- namely, in most display cases (including and especially search results of whatever search/merge tool):
IF female AND married, THEN
Given (Maiden) Married
On a profile page, the upper left area would include all pieces of her name; nicknames would be in quotes, e.g.,
Jillaine "Jill" (Smith) Bogdonoff
(which is not actually accurate in my particular case because I did not take my husband's surname, but exceptions can be edited as appropriate)
The current policy completely confounds my merge efforts. And it's also turning off those of us following accepted genealogical practices and at least in one case has resulted in someone leaving wikitree.
As others have said, you otherwise have a really great thing going here, and I'm sure there are logs here that allow you to see how much time I've been spending on this site, but this one particular ding is pretty bad.