Hello Jerry.
I can understand your concern. As you say it's scary.
Do you recall the first times you received "spam" emails?
Anyone in the world can contact you via email without your consent!. It's your choice to respond or not to respond.
I hope this helps to relieve your concern a little.
BTW, I was able to expand two family branches thanks to no-WikiTree members that got in touch with me via WikiTree "private messages".
I agree with your concern, Jerry. In my opinion, only signed-in fellow WikiTreers should be able to send me a private message from a WikiTree profile that I manage. Non-member visitors and non-signed-in members should not be able to send me a private message, a.k.a, an email.
And I would prefer that my fellow signed-in WikiTreers not be able to email me, either!
Julie, there are different privacy levels on every profile. You can get there by clicking the "Privacy" tab on the profiles.
More information about the different Privacy levels is available here
Rob Judd is 100% right. I'm really disappointed by some of the comments I've read on this thread. People who don't want to be contacted. People who don't respond when they are contacted. People who don't want others to know about their families. Why on earth did you join a freely available, public website in the first place?
For the record, I have a public tree on Ancestry, am signed up for GEDmatch using my real name and my usual e-mail address, and my profile here is as open as I can make it. I have posted my e-mail address on my Ancestry profile along with a promise to respond to everyone who contacts me. The worst that has ever happened is that occasionally I get some random question about a distant relative I've put on my tree whom I don't care about. I have also developed some very good contacts who have useful information to share.
Jerry, I think our question about this is .. if WE can't see your immediate family on Wikitree, how could someone else?
Are you sure this is not just some random spammer?
They don't need to know your email address in order to contact you .. and they should NOT find it out unless you respond to them by email.
IF it really is someone with knowledge of your immediate family, it argues that they already know you in some way outside of Wikitree, because that information is not available to US as logged-in members.
Jerry .. there is nothing that I can see in your original post that indicates the message you received was in any way horrible.
I did not know that anyone in the world can contact me via email through WikiTree even if they are not signed into WikiTree. I imagine they do not have to be registered. Someone has done that twice now. I guess there is no privacy in WikiTree. If I knew that anybody in the world can email me via WikiTree and claim they are immediate family, I may never have joined. It is scary and I fear for my family. My family comes first in my life and now I cannot delete anyone that is already listed in the people that I have entered. Thanks Wikitree for allowing the world to access me. I can never begin to tell how this makes me feel like inside. I am honestly not in the mood to hear rules and regulation recitals so save them for another day. Now I am going to have to speak to all of the immediate family and explain things to everything. I imagine there are going to be some hurt feelings here. I have lost some respect because this has occurred. Where are my rights? May I request that nobody be allowed to contact members unless they are registered and signed in.
It talks of privacy. It talks of you wanting the message system to be only for those already registered and logged in. It mentions being contacted by unknowns is scary. It mentions you losing respect (presumably within your family). It talks of hurt feelings, but not why.
But there is nothing there about how horrible the email was.
I have been contacted by unknowns a few times. I was sceptical and cautious, but did not find it scary (and I speak as someone who has been e-stalked for a long time).
I am not trying to downplay your feelings here, but you are saying we don't understand why you are upset — and I would 100% agree with that. I know *I* don't. But you cannot blame us for not understanding something that was not explained in the first place.
We are, all of those who responded here, trying to both understand AND to help; and also to be supportive. For that to work, we need to have more information than your first post actually gave.
When a private message is sent by someone who is not logged in to WikiTree, the message does indicate that the person was not a logged-in member. It's at the bottom of the message, but it's easy to find this:
The sender, Name (email), was not logged-in to WikiTree. If the message looks like bulk e-mail spam, please forward it to {info at wikitree.com} right away.