I don't know how to feel about this. It is obvious that Find A Grave memorials made by family members are much better than those made by strangers. But in my own case, I didn't really know my father, but heard he moved to Seattle, then Phoenix, then Tennessee (he's from NY). I heard he died probably in Tennessee, but where? He did pop up on Find A Grave, and I was very grateful. I contacted the memorial owner for a photo for here and was amused, rather than upset, that he said I could use 1 of the 3 photos he had posted. He also didn't offer to transfer the memorial to me, but then again, I didn't ask. Maybe I am less touchy than other people would be. On the other hand, I think 20 years is far too long to wait IMHO.