Being addressed as Mrs. Joe Bloggs is indeed a show of respect, and had you been noted in a news article, as such, would be identified as the wife of Joe Bloggs, and readers would know you were being referred to. My outrage is focused on the loss of identity for these women, due to this being a community with very large families and each of those Mrs Swanson, Mrs Johnson, etc. could have been any one of a dozen women. Years later as we read these accounts, hoping to find clues about a person's life, all that could be gleaned from that obit was that. one of the many Swanson men's wives sang and one or more of the many Johnson men's wives were there, etc, etc.. It was meaningless, since no matter what the event, surely one or more women, with the mentioned surnames, would be there, but which ones. It seemed very disrespectful, to write so many words, that said so little, about the life of a person, who has grown so dear to me, as I work on her WikiTree profile