He will always be Bobby to me. Did I know the man? Unfortunately no, but I knew boy. He was my cousin, Son of my Uncle Bob and Aunt Ethel, Beloved Brother of Dee, Lori, Tammy, Robin and Matt, Father to Amanda Beth Clark and Richard Adam Clark, Uncle Bobby to his many nieces and nephews. Cousin to so many of us, some who did not have the opportunity to ever meet him. But they know of him from those of us who knew him.
I say I did not know the man, but by this I mean first hand. I knew he was a father, I knew of his joys and his sorrows. The life’s struggles that so many of us go through. His triumphs and his failures.
My memories will always be strongest of the boy. Bobby the only boy, surrounded by sisters, till Matt came along,
Bobby and fishing comes to mind, and his pranks on his sisters and cousins. But that is not my strongest memory of Bobby.
As I talked with Dee this morning it came to me so clearly. I had to share with Dee my memory of Bobby and bath time. Bobby like so many boys did not like baths. What he would do when sent for a bath. You could hear the tub fill and the occasional splash, and there after about 30 minutes or so here comes Bobby. The ends of his hair wet, in pajamas all ready for bed. How long before anyone caught on was a guess. What Bobby would do is collect his pajamas, go in and fill the bathtub. What no one knew is he also collected some comic books. Instead of bathing he would sit next to the tub and read, occasionally reaching over the edge to make that splashing sound. When the allotted time was up he would take the water and wet the ends of his hair put on the clean Pjs and emerge.
I knew Dee was hurting and in that call she heard my tears and asked are you crying? Yes I was crying I will miss Bobby, all of us will. But the story of his ingenious way of getting out of a bath will always be the strongest memory to me.
↑ "United States Social Security Death Index," database, FamilySearch (https://familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:KMDW-ZZP : 20 May 2014), Robert T Clark, 04 Apr 2012; citing U.S. Social Security Administration, Death Master File, database (Alexandria, Virginia: National Technical Information Service, ongoing).:
It may be possible to confirm family relationships with Bobby by comparing test results with other carriers of his Y-chromosome or his mother's mitochondrial DNA.
However, there are no known yDNA or mtDNA test-takers in his direct paternal or maternal line.
It is likely that these autosomal DNA test-takers will share DNA with Bobby: