Orrilla's parents would most likely have been living in Granville when she was married in 1816 since Orrilla was only 16 years old at this time. One would expect Orilla's father to be named Hiram, Harvey, Leonard, Wendell or George and her mother to be named Harriet. However, there are 12 men with the last name of Smith in the 1810 Granville census and 15 in the 1820 census, and none has these names. These are also names that weren't really used until the late 1700's when people started naming some children with names not found in their families. However, several people in one family often used a "new" name.
Most of the men in the 1820 census also appear in the 1810 census. And most of the new names were sons of those in the 1810 census. Of the 12 Smiths listed in the 1810 census, here are my finds:
Therefore the best possibility of parents for Orrilla are Elizur Smith and Elizabeth Simons. Ebenezer Smith could also be explored further since he had so many children, but I find no other records of him, including the names of his children to be able to compare them to the names of Orrilla's children. Unless proof arises in other directions, I will consider Orrilla's parents to be Elizur Smith and Elizabeth Simons for the following reasons:
1. Orrilla was living in Granville when she married at the age of 16; thus it's very likely her parents actually appear in the Granville census of 1810 and / or 1820. Only a few of the Smiths there could be her parents.
2. Elizur's sons have children with similar names to Orrilla's children: George's children include Harvey and Harriet; Eli's children include Hiram. Thus there are 4 names that overlap with Orrilla's children. None of these names appears in Elizur's ancestry, true to the naming conventions of the day.
3. While Elizur's birth record is found in Glastonbury, CT in Family Search, none of his children nor his marriage are found there. We only know George and Eli were born in Connecticut because the 1850 census in NY lists it.
4. Elizur's sons have precisely recorded birth dates just like Orrilla, and none of them has a town mentioned.
5. The birth years of the 3 children mentioned on other sites are 1794, 1796 and 1798. Orrilla being born in 1800 would naturally follow this progression.
6. Orrilla's husband Benjamin was a Baptist. Why would a good Quaker boy become Baptist? Often it would be because his wife was Baptist! Elizur and Elizabeth's names are not mentioned in any church records, consistent with Baptists (they practice adult baptism, thus birth / baptism records usually don't exist). Elizabeth's family is not mentioned in any records, also consistent with Baptists. Same with her father's family. It's very difficult to trace a Baptist's family, which is why Orrilla's family has been so difficult to find. Interestingly, Elizur's son George and grandson Levi became Methodist clergymen.
7. Everything seems to dovetail into this being Orrilla's family. Only one thing remains a problem. The third child of the family, born in 1798, was named Elizabeth. The 1810 census record shows only one daughter Elizabeth's and Orrilla's age in Elizur's home. However, Elizur's mother Ruth lived on her own in Granville in 1810, and there were 3 women in her household. One seems to be quite young. It's possible Elizabeth or Orrilla was living with her, helping out on the farm. It's also possible that Elizabeth died before 1810. It would be very difficult to track her down to see.
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