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Mary was born into slavery and was the daughter of Robert Stafford, a Georgia plantation owner and Elizabeth Barnardey, one of his slaves, although at the time of her birth, her mother was the slave of the Bernardey family. [1] [2] This couple lived openly as man and wife although no marriage could take place due to the laws in place at the time in Georgia. Elizabeth and Mary had been gifted to Robert Stafford in a deed of gift, dated 28 December 1841, by Marguerite Barnardey, a neighbor of Stafford's. She transferred them to him "in consideration of her good will and affection for his services." He had assisted her by managing her plantation and business affairs for the past eight to ten years. [3] The deed read, in part:
sold the following property viz My Mulatto Girl Elizabeth and her child Mary about two years old [and her future increase] with this proviso [Robert Stafford] agrees that the ...said Elizabeth shall remain in the property of ...Margaret Bernardey during her natural life, or furnish said...Bernardey if she requires it a House Servant in lieu of ...Elizabeth in case he takes her away from ...Margaret Bernardey. [4]
Succumbing to pressure from his contemporaries and neighbors, Mary, her mother, and five siblings were moved to New England in 1847. [5] In New England the family registered as "mulatto," a designation used back then to indicate any person of color who was not predominantly black. [6] The children were well educated since they were raised with all the "amenities" available to the upper class in the 19th century. [7] The ladies of the family were very social in the community of Groton, Connecticut, entertaining quite extensively. [8] They held "dinner but with the type of musical soirees and amateur theatricals that appealed to a more sophisticated class."
In 1870 Mary is shown living with her husband, Frederick, children Roberta and Mary E. [9] Also in her home was her young sister Ellen Stafford. [10]
Mary died 22 May 1879 in Groton, Connecticut at age 41. [11] Her cause of death was consumption. [12]
Mary's first husband was Frederick A. Palmer, a mortgage broker and member of the South Carolina legislature. [13] They were married on 23 June 1859 in Norwich, Connecticut. [14] They were both listed as aged 20 years. [15] They remained married for about 15 years before divorcing. [16] They were the parents of two daughters, Roberta (Berta) and Mary Ellen (Mellie). [17]
Secondly, she married Charles Hyde Gaylord, a Yale educated doctor. [18] Their marriage took place on 25 August 1874. [19] They were the parents of one child, Robert Horace Gaylord.
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