I do not know if they even had a "Gold Star in the Civil War". i have presented the Gold Star Flag to many mothers for current times, Vietnam, Iraq, Afghanistan, Persian Gulf, Lebanon-Grenada. It is for those mothers, or primary parent that raised a son or daughter, who was killed on Active Duty by friendly fire or by War. It is not taken lightly. As a Past Commander of a VFW Post and a Past Commander of two DAV Chapters, I sadly have had that duty. I have also spoken at the displaying of the Blue Star and Gold Star Memorials in cities, parks, etc.