One person with two grave markers in different cemeteries

Question

Benedict Palmer's second wife's family marked his grave at the Ellis Cemetery in Mercer County, Ohio.

Someone also marked his grave with his first wife in Perry County, Ohio.

There appear to be two separate tombstones. One in the graveyard with his parents and first wife. The other in the cemetery with his second wife and children.

Can both find a grave pages be linked to his profile without causing a big mess?

Answer 1

I have run across this many times.  I always put both in but it causes some issues with reporting.  If you can figure out which one is where she was actually buried then use the sameas=no programming within the centotaph so it doesn't confuse things.

Comments

One of my great grandfather's was cremated (typical for the family) and his ashes were split in two; one-half staying in Los Angeles with the remains of his wife and children and the other half going back to Maryland where he shares a tombstone with his mother, his dad being buried next to them. Yep, there's two seperate Find-A-Grave memorials.   I haven't tried to include them both in his profile because his Obit, which I did include, explains the disposition of his ashes.

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Correct. The cenotaph should have no relationship links. The links belong on the actual burial memorial. If both memorials are reported to edit@ as the guidelines show, the links will be removed from the cenotaph and they will provide a link back to the other memorial.

Answer 2

That is exactly how I would have handled that situation. Two sources, two headstones, an explanation and location of the body.

Answer 3

I watch EVERY episode of Hollywood Grave Yard on YouTube, multiple times!  It is surprising to me that parts of the decreased are buried in different locations!  This seems to be common practice with Notables in Europe, But even Hollywood Stars in the USA have done this.

In the biography of that person, present what you found. You might have found an explanation or not as to why!  Another Wikitreer may find the explanation and improve the profile in the future.

Answer 4

It is obvious he decided to be buried with his second wife. So his first memorial is a cenotaph. Send a link to both memorials to : edit at Findagrave.com and explain which is the actual burial and which is the cenotaph. They will correct it. The cenotaph should have no links to other family members.

Answer 5

This is more common than most people realize.

 My ancestor was buried in Iowa where he died.  Two of his grandchildren who died young are also buried beside him.  His wife moved with her children to Nebraska and died a few years later.  She is buried there.  He has a stone beside hers   Family lore said the family planned to move his body to Nebraska.  This was over a century ago and no one knows if he was moved or not.  List both and explain in the notes.

Comments

This is how I would handle it as well. But with the addition of the sameas=no so it doesn't throw errors in Wikitree+

Answer 6

One of my great-great grandparents did this. After he died, they moved his first wife to his cemetery - but they left her memorial. So she has two headstones.

Also, my great uncle was killed as POW in WWII. He has a memorial in the United States and one in the Phillipines.